Don't worry, this is not a post about how natural hair is the only way to go. Back in 2011 I decided to cut off all my relaxed hair, and to grow out my natural hair.  I wore my own hair out for while, including the beginning of my Freshman year of college.  Maybe it was because I couldn't remember a time when my hair was that short that I wasn't comfortable enough and decided to begin wearing weaves and wigs.  My choice of hairstyles usually consisted of really big, afro-ish, kinky hair.  They were basically reflections of what I was hoping for my own hair to look like one day. Unfortunately because I was and still am very scissors happy, my hair hasn't really progressed.


Fast forward to now. Last week I discovered that my natural hair was long enough to braid, but as usual the ending result wan't exactly to my liking. Needless to say, I chopped off all my new growth. I made this decision after looking at numerous photos of Toni Braxton rocking her short cut in the 90's and a specific young lady who also wears her hair short and looks amazing.  After a little bit of tweaking I immediately fell in love with my new hairstyle. I then asked myself why did it take so long for me to become comfortable with the exact same style that I had in 2011.  I then secretly confessed to myself what I had been denying forever. I cared about what others would think. Now let me make something clear, when I say others, I specifically mean men, because I don't style myself for the attention of other women. I was secretly letting men decide my hairstyle.

Anyway, I remembered all the compliments I would get when I wore my big kinky hair, they loved it and naturally that made me feel good. Now while this may be the main reason I kept this style it isn't the only reason, I also wore it because I liked it. I just hated that me liking it wasn't my ONLY reason for wearing it. I'm not one who believes that if you are someone who's always wearing weaves and wigs or makeup that doesn't mean that you're not being true to you. I will say this though, I do believe that you should be just as comfortable and confident without the weaves and makeup. Don't let what others admire about your physical appearance be what you always portray only because they like it, be comfortable with being you. People can sense confidence and if you like it, so will everyone else eventually and if they don't, too bad.

It took me a long time to really be comfortable in my own skin, and I regret each day that I let pass by with me focusing merely on what others thought. Recently while shopping with my father he said, "I don't know why you just won't wear your natural hair", him saying that is what definitely pushed me to make this decision. Life is too short to worry about what others think, my hair does not and will never change who I am. I really like my new style and plan on wearing it for a very long time. I feel good and confident with it, whoever likes it, likes it and to those who don't, oh well.

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